I think this was the most comments (350) any post has ever received in this group. And what is overwhelmingly clear is that there is no shortage of obstacles in our way.
I compiled a list of all the responses & they settled nicely into 2 groups:
Group A – things we can control
Group B – things we cannot control
**Starred** entries being things that may be harder to control but can be managed, depending on context
Group A: Things we can control:
- Failing to plan
- Too busy/time constraints
- Lack of sleep/fatigue
- Impatience/want instant results
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Lack of Self discipline
- Lack of Will power
- Lack of consistency
- Instant gratification
- Giving in to emotional/stress eating
- Don’t want to miss out on fun
- Unsupportive friends
- Stuck in Restrict/binge cycle
- All or nothing thinking
- Family demands
- Money issues
- Self doubt
- Lack of accountability
- Lack of knowledge
- Lack of transportation
- Self sabotage
- Lack of goals
- *Break up/ relationship problems
I’m going to call group A, EXCUSES. However real or legitimate they may be. Still excuses.
A lot of these “excuses” stem from false beliefs about ourselves that we either indirectly or directly project onto us from others or ourselves. They become an inner story we tell ourselves. But they’re often not true. Example: “I will be happy/successful/respected/loved when I lose (fill in the blank) pounds.”
“I would feel so much more confident if I just looked like (insert favorite fitspo)”
Some ways to tackle these negative beliefs are to:
- Get off any social media that is making you feel bad about yourself. Seriously, do it now.
- Unfollow people who don’t make you feel good about yourself.
- Stop buying into other people’s standard of beauty/strength/fitness
More ways to overcome:
- Understand you are not alone in never feeling “good enough”
- Always be true to yourself
- Surround yourself with like-minded people
- Increase your self awareness
- Take control of your emotions & address them, don’t suppress
- Stop making excuses for things you can control or change
- Create change
- Set your goal(s)
- Take action every day toward your goal(s)
- Use your words to create positivity & tell your story to help others
Group B: Things we cannot control:
- *Lack of support from friends/family
- *Relationship problems /bad breakup
With respect to group B & things that may be outside of our control:
There are always going to be people who doubt you or don’t support you. You can choose to have them in your life or not or you can keep them at a comfortable distance. But you are responsible for your actions & reactions. So practice setting boundaries. Or perhaps step away from the relationship.
You may at some point experience an injury due to accident or poor training. Again, control what you can. Be safe. Train smart. There are ways of training around an injury if we lose the “all or nothing” mentality.
Chronic sickness often comes & goes in waves. Some days are worse than others. Again, control what you can. If it’s a good day, then move more & do more. If it’s not, accept that there will be better days ahead and when they come, take advantage. That could mean a short walk outside. (On a personal note, I spent many many days last year & even a few this year unable to move or train or even walk my dog. But when I had a good day you can bet I took full advantage)
Hunger is easy. Accept that there are days you are going to be hungry if you are dieting. Embrace the suck. Then swap out those calorie dense foods for high volume ones. And protein fluff. (It tastes like Gelato if you’re hungry enough- lol) You are going to experience hunger at some point, so better to just accept it.
Finally, you are all strong, smart, beautiful & capable women. That is the story I want you to tell yourself each night when you go to sleep & each morning before you start your day. Journal, pray, meditate, reflect but please take 2 mins every night & every morning to express gratitude & to focus on the positive & what you do well. I challenge you to write down 5 nice things about yourself EVERY day. And if you’re stumped for 5- message me & I’ll gladly come up with 10.
Join us in the group to discuss (Ladies only please)